We went to a long weekend trip recently for the kids and it has been such a lovely gateway.

I realised that what made the trip so enjoyable was that Mojuju and I did not have a single disagreement throughout the entire trip. I find that surprising because in the past it felt like everything is a struggle for us to agree on one thing.

Honestly I don’t know how or what couple counselling even did to us. I feel that both of us has been more patient and understanding towards each other and that’s all it took for us to have an amazing time.

The kids loved the trip, and I think it’s even more memorable when their parents don’t squabble. Looking back, my parents rarely ever argue when we go to holidays (which I think was less than 5 throughout my entire childhood sadly 😂), and that made it such a lovely memory for me.

I used to dread going to trips together because I didn’t like conflict, especially in new places. But after this last trip I feel like I’m so keen to go for more! 😂

I love how we are at the moment and I hope it will be a lasting change. I don’t feel the need to fish for his attention on social media anymore because he no longer ignores my concerns. And I feel so much calmer with his new attitude. I guess I also started to explain myself a lot more to him. He always calls me aloof in a bad way and now he knows I’m just overstimulated and go into a state of blankness. I get even more absent if he raises his voice at me. Idk why, I just can’t take it like a normal person. Childhood PTSD maybe 😂😂🤣

The kids are also so well behaved lately, maybe it’s a domino effect. We’re now trying to encourage them to verbalise their feelings and work them out with us so they wouldn’t end up growing into dysfunctional adults like both of us are. Well Tuesday are a bit young but jeeeezzz she recently started having so much attitude 🙄 girls..