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It’s a Chinese proverb of how we all eventually will return back to our roots.

We recently had a trip back to our home country. Seeing my parents reminds me of the hardship we went through together. Seeing them never fail to teach me the value of family, frugality, love and virtue. My mom and I are also getting closer, and we both now respect each other’s boundaries.

I once swore that I would never change who I am despite my achievements and where I now stand. Coming from a family where even electricity and food was scarce, thanks to both my parents who toiled their entire life, I now have a stable career. I worked hard, but it would never be possible without them. My dad ventured multiple business just to be able to afford my university fees. He was such a strong father. Despite some failures, he never once gave up. I’ve heard terrible stories about men taking their lives after failing business ventures: I’m just so glad that wasn’t my dad.

We’re now financially free, living comfortably, never needing to “ikat perut” (tie stomach to starve). During my trip, we laughed about how my exam results were withheld because I wasn’t able to pay my uni fees on time. We cried tears of joy, being grateful that despite all those tough times, we still held each other’s hand tightly. We forgive and forget harsh words that were said in times of frustration. Because at the end of the day, we’re family.

Mr Monday and Princess Tuesday really enjoyed staying with my parents. Sadly Mojuju’s dad home has some issues so we couldn’t stay over, but they spent nearly everyday with my father in law while we went in Mojuju’s home town, so they had great time there too.

I’m glad my dad is making good progress after his surgery from cancer too. Despite not recovering my existing investment money for his surgery, we again managed to work hard here and there to afford the surgery before it spread. I hope he remain in remission and continue to teach my children the virtue he taught me throughout.

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大白 fell ill recently. We tried to fix her up, I even drained ~750ml of ascitic fluid from her. She was perking up, standing up and started to drink on her own.

Mojuju decided that it’s a good idea to kick her out to the backyard despite my protest. But he did it anyway while I was at work. When I came home, she could no longer stand on her feet.

We don’t know exactly what happened. Was it because she was still recovering and he did that? Was it that her suspected ovarian cancer worsened? I guess we’ll never know. But it’s been 2 days now that she has lost the ability to stand or even sit straight.

It’s likely ovarian cancer. Hens has 35% chance of getting ovarian cancer at age of 2, and it obviously increases every year then. She’s over 4, and ovarian cancer is the most likely cause of ascites.

I want to put her to sleep but Mojuju thinks it’s cruel. I think it’s cruel to keep her in pain. We couldn’t come to an agreement.

My only hope, is that she can rest in peace. My baby, she has been such a good girl. Silkies are always docile, and she is the epitome of a silkie. Delicate, docile, feminine and gentle.

I told her it’s OK to leave, she’s done a good job now.

On one hand, we have baby chicks (unintended hatching by a rogue stubborn girl), on one hand we have 大白 who at the doorstep of death. It’s okay. It’s a circle of life. We should celebrate her completing her journey. She’s finally at the end, and she’s done so well.

We wrapped rice dumplings together yesterday. I mean Mojuju was never interested in making traditional food so he took the job of sourcing the ingredient and boiling water. Ya knooo the menial jobs 🤣

Lil’Tuesday and Mr Monday cleaned up all the leaves and also helped out *a little* with the wrapping. They very quickly went to play dragon boat race with our kitchen furniture 😅

It’s been awhile since I made it, so the taste aren’t the best. But dumplings are dumplings. How bad can it be? It’s just a little less salt than normal. I’m impressed that after so many years of not making them that I was still able to wrap them up neatly. Nothing fell apart or came out during boiling process.

Making dumpling reminds me of my grandma. It’s funny that I never actually made it with my grandma before, or even seen her do it. But she used to do them when my mom was young, and it’s from the story of my mom that I know about it. Mom actually doesn’t make rice dumplings. She doesn’t know how 🤣🤣🤣.

A lot of the tradition that I try to do with the kids aren’t actually my family tradition. I guess, I hoped for as a child, but mom never had much interest in tangie traditions, but more on intangible values which is equally important.

But I really want my children to have good childhood memories to look back to. Maybe one day when it’s dragon boat festival when they are far away, they will reminisce making dumplings back home. And maybe, just maybe, that will fill their heart with just a little warmth when they are far from home. ❤️

Today is my first day at work in my new workplace, as a fully qualified ****** (why do we need to sensor this? I mean everyone knows I’m a doctor).

We celebrated my qualification on Saturday with a Japanese buffet meal with our friends from Birm! It was about 2 hours drive but it was definitely worth it though.

Princess Tuesday and I obviously dressed up to the nines. I even used the sarong that my grandmother always worn (pattern, not the physical thing sadly) as my selendang / scarf. We had SO MUCH FOOD. I mean it’s buffet, and it’s Japanese. The kids had so much sushi and sashimi that I think their swimming skills must have leveled up. I also got to cuddles with our friend’s newborn (5m). He is so teeny tiny and reminded me of when Mr. Monday was also teeny tiny.

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How are you guys doing? You know while I was in Malaysia for 3 weeks I was fairly impressed with my immune system the entire time. I mean I wasn’t ill… no colds… just some allergies; nothing anti histamine can’t fix.

I came back to the U.K. and in less than 2 weeks I fall ill again. (Thanks useless WCC). You may think that maybe my neurophils are a little useless because of autoimmune neutropaenia. But actually I am more sus about my lymphocytes… I have been literally bounded to my bed all day yesterday with my baby sister Qyuni looking after Mr. Monday and Lil’Tuesday. I genuinely was struggling until she came home from uni. Lil’Tuesday was LITERALLY pulling my eyelids open every minute or so telling me not to fall asleep (˚ ˃̣̣̥⌓˂̣̣̥ )

A lot of you have been asking me did I enjoy my time back home / how was my holiday. So I think I should expand a little on it.

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How did you spend your new year?

We have been exceptionally busy visiting all our family and relatives. I personally have been busy meeting the needs of Monday and Tuesday 😭😭😭 they need CONSTANT stimulation. They are either in the swimming pool, the playground, wrecking other’s houses or running around my parent’s home.

My aunts, mom and I

My 3rd aunt invited me to her home for lunch. Lucky for the kids, she works as a childminder and had lots of toys for them to play with. Unfortunately… Most of my relatives doesn’t speak English so they didn’t quite understand anything 😂😂😂😂

Homg look at those food.

Her cooking tasted like childhood. How do I put it… It was both comforting and heart wrenching at the same time. Sadly my 3rd uncle is no longer around, but he has always been nice to me too.

BUT YOU KNOW WHAT IS MOST NOSTALGIC? WE ATE ON THIS TABLE THAT MOVED HOMES WITH HER!

The exact table I had my meals when I was less than 4-5 under her care!

The table has outlive many people 😂 how is it still so sturdy? Jeez… Things were really made to last back then.

I really wanted to have a big countdown this year but my dad had to go complete some audit stock check last minute 🙄… Yes he’s a bit like Mojuju, – – – – and everything to the last minute. Or is this a men thing? 🤣🤣😎 Well I just ended up not carrying out our feast 😭. Even more crazy, we tried to watch live countdown on YouTube and sis told me the channel I was on will turn into a real firework at 12midnight AND IT DIDN’T 🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂 I WILL FOREVER TEASE HER FOR IT 😂😂😂😂😂

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